My Desire To Love Myself Should Never Offend you.

What is wrong with some people? Don’t they know that self-preservation is the very first law of nature?! Yet, they still want to act like their wants and needs take precedence over yours. As my husband would say in his overly-country voice, “Mane, get outta here!” And this is not to say that you shouldn’t help people, because you should help them. But only if it is not to the detriment of you. And further, never has anything good ever come from enabling a full grown person.

You know what ages a person more than not drinking enough water or refusing to work out? Getting used and abused! People will suck you dry if you let them (pause). So do not let them. The word “No” has saved many of people a great deal of heartache. You should try using it sometimes. And as an added bonus, try saying it without an explanation following behind it (but only if you don’t mind pissing a few folks off).

See, if you really stop to think about it.. people would tell you “No” in a heartbeat. Without a second thought, you’ll be blown off like a candle in the wind. So why is it so hard for you to do it? My guess is that you’ve got lots of empathy. And that’s a great thing. But learn how to govern that empathy and delegated it to the folks (or animals) who actually need it and are truly deserving of it.

And the best advice that I can offer as a quick fix… is that if you find yourself unable to tell someone “No”, then maybe you need to quit answering their calls. Instead, reply back with a text message. It should be easier for you to type N-O than it is to say it outright. Because I’ll be honest… if you’re a newbie to this whole “Boundaries” thing, then it is kinda hard in the beginning. But you’ll get there in due time. It takes a lot of courage & a lot of practice (which I am sure people will give you plenty of opportunity). But start small & then build up to it. Do it for you (the most important person in your life). It’s self-love 101 and will be so liberating once you get to the other side. Just watch!

And at the end of the day… if it offends anyone, then they can like it or lump it. We are our first protector and our time & energy is sacred. If it doesn’t sit well with you, then that is all the confirmation you need. We’re loving on ourselves over here & it only gets better.